Saturday, May 1, 2010

Dear Abby... or anyone for THAT matter!

Out of the blue I had a fellow co-worker call me today.
I wouldn't label what we have as friendship... more like acquaintances that work at the same place.

I really truly knew nothing about her until our staff Christmas party...
...where she secretly got drunk my kitchen herself
...while everyone else hung out and talked in my living room.

She then revealed to me that she had a terrible marriage, but didn't know how to get out.
I gave her some suggestions, but doubted that she would remember for as drunk as she was.

So, today, she called to ask if she could move in with me.
It caught me completely off guard.

I wanted to immediately say "No, absolutely NOT!" because I don't know the full extent of the drama in her life and I don't want it to become part of mine and my boys.

But in the same since, my brain reels back to my dad being abusive to my mom... and all the people that helped her (& my brothers and me) get out of that situation.

I'm torn.

I told her it was not a light decision and I needed a day to think about it.
I just don't know what to do...


  1. Find out anything you can about the situation first to protect you and the boys. Also, work out a time arrangement for how long she needs a place to stay. Just be up front because no matter how helpful you want to be you don't want to be in a bad situation.

  2. “Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't.”


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