Monday, September 20, 2010

How are THEY affected?

I hate that my ex, R. and W. broke up.
I don't hate it for him ...or for her ...or for me.
I hate it for my kids.

In the past 4 years, they have seen R. & my relationship end, Spencer and my relationship end, and now R. & W's.

I fear that my sons will grow up not knowing what a "normal" adult relationship looks like.

I don't want them to think that when the going gets tough, someone in the relationship leaves.
I know I haven't played my cards that way...I have stayed in realtionships that should have ended way earlier, but still, my relationships haven't exactly panned out either.

I want them to know that true loving relationships consider the other person's feelings to a point that they would never without question want to hurt them in any way.

But it is hard.

It is hard because, as of right now, I can only talk the talk.... walking the walk isn't in the cards for me right now.
...and the end of this relationship actually has me more fearful to seek out a new one (not because I don't want one, because I truly do) but because I don't want my boys to see another one end.

“There is a great difference between worry and concern. A worried person sees a problem, and a concerned person solves a problem.”


  1. Me again Dawn,

    I think you're boys are going to be fine and I think you're doing a great job at bringing them up healthy and happy.

    My parents split when I was 9 and it was a terrible one, fake attempted suicide included. My mum went on to have another bad relationship but that said I am happily married to a wonderful man that I've been with for years.

    Cut yourself some slack and have a good day.

  2. I think that they should see that when it is true love there is no leaving. Tell them that in their lifetime they will come to meet many girls, but only one will be "true Love".

    So dont rush to get involved in a serious relationship.

    Thats all I got. sorry


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