I knew my reasoning behind it.
Today I had to express why... I guess I should have all along.
I had a parent write a note back telling me, "Thanks a LOT for the heads up on this!! Guess you thought I was made of money."
I mean, buying 23 little items... like pencils, or erasers, or candy... I had explained all that in my note... things that would equal less than $5 for the whole class.
I thought I was doing a good thing here... all the kids would get the same thing. Caring and sharing.
So I called the mom.
I learned of a lost job and a soon-to-be foreclosed home.
I heard a stressed out momma.
I told her that I didn't want to add any more to her plate... that I would make sure her daughter has something to pass out... for her not to worry about it.
"Okay???" I asked.
There was silence on the other end... and then sobbing.
I continued talking, reassuring while she regained herself.
"I don't want my daughter to feel less than the others because she doesn't bring something."
And here is where I shared what I have been teaching my students, but I forgot to share the concept with their parents...
We have been writing 'The Gift of Kind Words'...where every student writes something kind to every classmate. I have been teaching the kids that things don't need to be expensive to be meaningful. That is why they were to bring little items... just to share in the joy of giving, not to impress with big expensive items.
After I explained all of that, I told the mom, "So, please. Let me get your daughter's gift for you. Let me keep from adding another burden to your load. Consider this my gift to you."
She never told me yes...
but she never told me no either.