Monday, January 6, 2014

I followed my heart... I hope it is leading me down the right path

There was the initial spark (that I need) when I met him.
Once he was there, there didn't seem to be a question as to whether or not he should be there.
It seemed right... until it didn't.

I can't pinpoint a time or day when it seemed wrong, but it did.
I struggled with myself.
I mean... he was a nice guy, treated my kids well, my friends and family liked him.  I also liked his family.
All the perfect portions to a good recipe, right?

But we didn't ever seem to be moving forward...we have stayed in the same place that we have been the last year and a half.
Him living at his house. Me living at mine.  Two families together, yet separate, all the time.
And I thought that eventually we would merge... somehow.

But it didn't happen.

Again, I fought with myself.
I told myself to give it time...That just because I couldn't see it in the cards, doesn't mean it isn't there.

But then, little things started to become bigger things... Unkind words were spoken.  He pointed out things that he didn't like about me... not about how I am, but about who I am.
I was caught off guard ... and hurt.

We talked about it, but inside I was unsettled.  I couldn't see how someone who cared so much about me would say such hurtful things.
So, I did what I always do.  I apologized.

I apologized and put on my happy face.
Putting on a happy face, only lasts so long when you can cut the tension with a knife.
He was obviously still not okay and neither was I.

So this weekend I walked away.
I know this may seem harsh or drastic... but trust me, it wasn't.
Our time together was no longer pleasant.  Anytime the hurtful words were brought up, only more hurtful words were spoken.
I told him that I was done fighting over little things.
I told him that I didn't want to be with someone who thought of me poorly -  like in the recent weeks that he had said he did.
I feel a little lost at times... I have gotten used to "checking in"... but I know that this is part of the journey... a VERY hard part.

6 comments:

  1. Big hugs from across the pond beautiful. I promise everything is going to be okay because you're fabulous xx

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  2. You are never wrong if you follow your heart

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    1. I know... now if you could give me the solution of my heart not feeling conflicted that would make things SO much easier :)

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  3. My comment disappeared into never never land. I know no one is perfect, but I can't imagine what he could have possibly found about you that isn't great. You are kind and funny and smart and you're a great mom and sister and friend. And you make PIE! In a world where no one makes pie anymore, you do. You are one of a kind and you are wonderful. If he couldn't see those things, then you did the right thing. Love you!

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    1. Haha! Only you, Erin, would bring my pie making skills to the table :) Love you too!!

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